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Readers Respond: How Bad Neighbors Can Banish Backyard Serenity

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Confession: I'm the Bad One

My (adult) kids are so loud and obnoxious. They rev muffler-less trucks all hours of the day and night. My daughter yells instead of just talking. Neighbors complain, but what can I do? I'm the mom, yes, but they are supposed to be adults. My HOA is going to fine me. There is talk of a petition or something against me. I can't toss my kids out but I don't know what else to do. We live in a nice area (after my divorce) but we act like hillbillies and belong elsewhere.
—Guest loud

Bad Neighbors of Expensive House

We worked, saved, and struggled to buy dream home -6000 square feet, 1 acre lot... get the picture? One neighbor was a bully and the rest of the neighbors bowed down. He was dealing prescription drugs through his teens. They left, but another neighbor three houses down still deals drugs. Kids used to hot box in front of my house. The neighbors don't respect the property boundaries. Their kids are constantly in my yard pulling out flowers. They let their dogs do their business in my yard. They are constantly trying to push the property boundary. It's not my fault they didn't walk the property before they bought the house. There is no housing association but some of the neighbors take it upon themselves to complain except when they build illegal decks or do something without permits. Great parents they are, walking with open alcohol containers and putting cigarettes in with the Halloween Candy. Two neighbors had parents buy the houses for them. They didn't earn it so can't respect it.
—Guest Wits End

Bombs and Break-Ins

I'm 18. One day I was in my yard and felt water hit my face. Turns out my neighbor was throwing water bombs at me. Here's another incident. I was at work one night. I came home in the early morning and woke up two hours later. When I went downstairs, I learned my neighbor had broken in.
—Guest aaron

The Poisoner Next Door

My neighbor poisoned and killed two of my animals. Now my 5 yr old has been taken to the hospital and results show she's been poisoned, too. The cops can't do anything, even though there have been verbal threats. Where does the sickness end?
—Guest zua smith

Dog Barking: What Should We Tolerate?

To say that "dogs bark" is no more correct than to declare that children shriek at the top of their lungs, or people fart and spit on the sidewalk. I've had bad neighbors who let their dogs and kids make all the noise they want, whenever they want. No restraints on their freedom in a free country was their motto. But people no longer tolerate habits like lighting up a cigarette and blowing smoke, or hopping in a car after a few mixed drinks. And the same philosophy is happening with neighbors and their habits that disrespect the well-being and tranquility of a neighborhood.
—Guest Italics Mine

Flanked by Bad Neighbors (Continued)

I've written about my two out-of-control neighbors before, and that's exactly what they are. Two women who live alongside of me who have made my life a nightmare. Now they are getting so bold as to be near my garage whenever I am leaving my house. Just to annoy me. One does that each time I leave my house. It's almost like she has an inside camera watching everything I do. How else does she know when I'm leaving, so she can get out of her house and go to the shared driveway and be there at the same exact time? How freaky is that?
—Guest paj1@surewest.net

You Haven't Heard This One: Flanked

I have 2 neighbors who live along each side of me who are best friends. They are so jealous of me, my marriage and my house. Since they are single, one is trying to steal my husband away by flirting with him when I'm not around -- and even so bold as to try and do it while I am home. The other one watches everything I do to report to the one trying to steal him. I have been followed and am watched day and night. They both cause arguments between my husband and myself.
—Guest Pegsmart

Turning the Tables on a Bad Neighbor

I had a really bad neighbor so I thought about it and went to a pay phone and placed their home up for sale at $20,000 under market value, with an open house the next Sunday from 12-5 with snacks served. What a mess it was: cars everywhere. They moved.
—Guest liem

Disrespectful, Domineering Bad Neighbor

My neighbor is a drunk, a predator and has OCD. Lee can't mind his own business. He listens to your conversations, always watches what you do in your backyard -- all the while holding his beers. He belittles his friend, WHO IS A VET. Lee thinks he's better than you , and he trashes you behind your back. He tries to take over other people's property. He cut the next door neighbor's bamboo without permission. He drilled holes through the other neighbor's metal fence to attach his wooden fence. He butchered all my tall bushes. His friend said to me he thinks the property is his because he takes care of it. If you are working in your backyard -- say, cutting branches -- he starts telling you how to cut the stuff and tie it up. The next door neighbor throws a birthday party for their family. What does this idiot do? He takes his muscle car out, and he revs his engine for 25 minutes so the fumes travel over there. They were so upset, they ended bringing everything in the house. This guy is no good. He's 49, never married.
—Guest BERT

Snow Job From Bad Neighbors

After hours of cleaning the snow away from out in front of my house, my bad neighbors drag all their snow over and dump it in front of my house! What a wintertime downer!
—Guest Rolande

Story of My Sis's Former Bad Neighbors

These people took the cake. My bro-in-law keeps his house and yard nice and neat. About a year ago, after my bro-in-law would do the yard -- raking, mowing etc. -- good neighbors noticed the bad one would blow his leaves into the yard after bro-in-law was done cleaning. It got to where the bad neighbor called the cops on bro-in-law for getting mad, but the good neighbors had seen it and knew my bro-in-law wasn't the type to be dishonest. Well, so about a year ago my niece is home alone when the cops show up out of the blue. The unfriendly neighbor had called the cops in the middle of the week -- and in the middle of a windy day -- to complain that bro-in-law was blowing the leaves into his yard. But here's what tripped up the complaining neighbor: bro-in-law was at work for the city at that time, not at home. Just because the bad neighbor was always home, that didn't mean my bro-in-law was. Yeah that was just stupid and made the WHOLE neighborhood hate him more. He did more, but that was the worst.
—sunshine_daisies

Bad Neighbors in Subdivision

My neighbors are a young couple with a toddler. They planted a row of trees 4 feet from our fence. These trees now shed leaves into our yard. Where we live there are not many restrictions in the subdivision. It is lawful in this state to have chickens in a subdivision -- and they have them. They also have an annoying barking dog. They left it out during Fourth of July fireworks, and it went crazy.
—Guest Lisa

Cat Killers

I have lived in my home in the country for over 25 years and have raised 3 children and many, many animals of all types and sizes. My neighbor, who has been renting the house next store for approx 6 months now, just informed me that if my cat is found in his yard again he will kill it. I asked if she did any sort of damage and was told no, not at all, but "My husband just doesn't like cats and it was laying in the bed of his truck." I said I would vacuum it, wax it, whatever would solve his problem with my cat, but apparently nothing short of death will satisfy his blood lust! Is this legal? Can they actually just kill my cat for being in their yard?
—Guest trishahenn

Our Swimming Pool is a Target Zone

Our new bad neighbors like to sit on their roof and throw beer bottles at passing cars, and when they don't have any cars to target, they see how many beer bottles they can break in our swimming pool. They throw their trash over our fence, use old china plates as "swimming pool frisbees" to see if they can get them to shatter on the edge of the swimming pool. They've been here one month, and it's become obvious that they are dealing drugs. They get 20, 30 to 40 people visiting them for five minute periods every day. All day. We've spent thousands on a vacation but are afraid to leave our property untenanted for any length of time.
—Guest Lady

Neighbor Driving Dirt Bike on My Lawn

The other day I had a neighbor's kid (about 12 years old) that felt it was ok to go riding his dirt bike in the neighborhood and ride on my side yard grass. I came outside and told the kid, hey, I planted that grass and don't think you need to be riding on it. I then walked away, but the kid kept doing so, up and back across my lawn. I saw his father down the street and yelled down, tell your kid to stop riding on my lawn. I went back inside my house and about 5 minutes later I get a knock on the door. The man tells me it won't happen again and I tried to explain that there are OHV laws. He says to me, "I don't care about laws." In my mind I thought to myself, "Now I know where this kid gets it: like father, like son.
—Guest Livermore

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